kids at weddings…
So you want to open a big can of worms for your wedding… Let people know you don’t want rug rats at your wedding. You’ll get a few supporters, but most will really be pissed off at you. Mostly the ones on your guest list who can’t imagine leaving their kids with a baby sitter or are to cheap to pay for one.
Throwing a children free wedding day is just one way to cut back the guest list for smaller type weddings,but be prepared to get shit for it , you may become the devil fast . Going by the posts on some bridal chat blogs , there are some very strong opinions about rug rats at weddings. Some can’t imagine why you wouldn’t want kids at the wedding. They argue that it’s anti family not to invite kids and that weddings are all about family. Others can’t understand why you would want kids underfoot at such an adult event like a wedding.
We had kids at our wedding. There were only a few , but we wouldn’t have had it any other way. That being said, I can totally understand why some couples opt for a no children wedding. Couples generally spend months planning their weddings, not to mention saving for the big day. Along comes the pissed off toddler, and WHAMOO!!! perfect wedding is down the toilet , especially if it happens during the vows.Forget someone cell phone going off during the vows, try 110 lbs of kids screaming.
Kids, I love them to death but they are very unpredictable my friends . They cry and scream. They make messes. They bump into things and are known to stick their fingers into places that they shouldn’t like the cake, noses, you get the picture. But most times, they’re also surprisingly well behaved during special occasions and can add a lot to a Wedding Day.
If you are sure you want a no kid wedding day, how do you ensure that your adult guests won’t bring their rug rats.
Whether your motives for going kid free are to limit the guest list, or a morbid fear that crying babies, pissed off toddlers & playful preschoolers will make havoc on your wedding, here are some simple ways to get the message across to your guests that kids aren’t invited without loosing friends…
Wait before you send out the invites, call friends and family who have kids and let them know that a wedding invitation is on the way and that you have chosen for a no kid wedding day. That way they will have time to line up babysitters.After they have ripped your ears off…”What’s wrong with my Johnny” etc.
Wedding experts, including me, say that it’s tacky to write ‘no children’ on the invites. Instead, state on the RSVP card that the wedding will be an ‘adult only reception’. Another way of saying this is to write the following on the RSVP card: “We have reserved ___ seats in your honor” and just include the number of adults you want to come.
People be firm with this!!! . If you cave in at your sister’s request to bring her little ones, and your friend’s little ones were forced to stay with babysitters, there will be hurt feelings and maybe blood.
One way to please your guests with kids is to have a babysitter or two at the wedding . Set up fun activities like a craft center to keep the kids busy. One word of caution here some kids get severe separation anxiety and will not take to this idea very well. Keep this in mind when you are pursuing this option. And no child EVER died from watching too many movies at a wedding in the back room, it will be more fun for them. One down side I see to not having kids at the wedding, setting next to you, is you don’t get to eat their left over fried food.
Let me know what you think about kids at weddings Peter…
Good luck at Cheers Peter Bruce & bELLE team
Let me know what you think about kids at weddings, Peter
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